Popular music producer Tedd Josiah has for the first time admits that time hasn’t heal his pain of losing wife Reginah Katar .
It is three years since Tedd lost his wife and life hasn’t been the same for him and their two-year-old daughter, Jameela Wendo (Jay).
Taking to his Instagram account, Tedd penned down a long painful message revealing that he misses his wife adding that time just helps delete the clarity of the pain.
“I MISS MY FRIEND What is grief like? Well it’s like the waves of an ocean sometimes they are high sometimes low but ur guaranteed they will hit. What causes them? Memories, jolts of confusion, uncertainty and moments of self-doubt all play roles in this. How long does it take to heal? U don’t heal u just learn to walk with the limp,” he confessed.
“time just helps delete the clarity of the pain & numbs u 💕 I’ve learnt to walk with it.”
Tedd went on to narrate the sweet moments they had together with his wife and daughter shortly before mama Jay passed on.
“Friday 7:30 pm dinner at home with mama and JayJay she’d cooked rice and chicken and was happy beyond words… then a movie…. as JayJay slept between us on the couch,” he narrated.
“After the film, we went to bed and she’d talked right through the movie!!!! 3 am as she breastfed she complained that heat head hurt, took meds and threw them up. So we dashed to the hospital 🏥 and she fell asleep and never woke up again.”
The father of one went on to reveal that his wife’s death was a big blow to him and his daughter and that every Friday her death plays back in his head.
“5 am JayJay and I sat in my car confused lost and alone…. she’d just gone like that.No child should ever be without a mother! NO CHILD!!! My friend u were magic, rest cause every Friday it plays back in my head….But broken crayons 🖍 still paint so I will paint ASHKIM,” he wrote.
Tedd lost his wife on the morning of Saturday, September 30th, 2017, he only learned about what killed his wife after she passed on.
“Her death comes as a shocker given she only complained of a headache on Friday and early Saturday. When I rushed her to a hospital on Saturday she passed away three hours later. When she was in town (Nairobi) on Friday, I asked her to go do a blood test which she responded that she would go for the tests on Saturday. All through she looked normal, and was not feeling any pain. It is extremely sad we lost her in such a manner,” Josiah said.
Tedd Josiah further revealed that doctors told him his wife died of low platelet count, Reginah’s blood platelet count fell below normal after childbirth.
“She died from a very rare condition, which occurs among a few women across the world but it is very rare to be detected among African women. Her blood platelet count fell below normal after childbirth.
“Reginah’s platelets, a component of blood whose function is to stop bleeding by clumping and clotting blood vessels injuries, were so diluted leading to a significantly reduced count. Sadly all through she had internal bleeding, which had not been detected nor stopped because of her low platelet count”.
Apparently doctors didn’t detect the issue when she gave birth, the deceased was bleeding internally and the bleeding couldn’t stop because her body lacked the component to stop the bleeding by clumping and clotting blood vessel injuries.
“A new mother’s platelet count is supposed to be monitored regularly months after delivery especially if she has issues with her platelet count. Hers was not checked, sadly we were made aware of her condition after she had passed on. She has left behind our three-month-old baby, Jamila Josiah.”